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I Was a Witness. [May. 21st, 2006|11:45 pm]
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My mother had successful surgery last Tuesday. Doctors found a cyst on one of her ovaries, and in addition to their removal, she had her bladder tightened. For the last handful of months, I've watched her get things in order, just in case, you know, like a will. I watched her grow concerned as the day grew closer. She never had to have surgery, and she was in the hospital before, but it was to have me. She's in her sixties now, but after surgery, they put her on the ladies floor, mixed among new mothers. The atmosphere up there must have helped. Her nurses were top notch, and the surgeons did fantastic work, too. I watched her through the bedridden stupor of morphine on that first day. To say that the experience in this last week and a half was not traumatic for me, well, it would be a lie.

She does better every day. The first couple days after she returned home this weekend became a touch difficult. She cannot lift anything over 5 pounds, per the doctors' orders. The stitches come out next week, but the total time to full recovery will be about a month and a half. Cooking for my mother, in addition to the upcoming extra loads of wash, plus every other little thing, like helping her in and out of the shower, well, I'm happy to help her on the inside, even if I don't always smile. The 16-18 hour days of care aren't a total impossibility, despite my own back troubles. After all, she could have had a stroke, or she could be in home hospice, comatose. She's my mom, and she wiped my asshole for many days as an infant. To have zero gratitude, well, if I said that, it would also be a lie.

My father had to take care of my grandmother for a handful of years. She had Alzheimer's, and by the last couple years, she became very disconnected. My aunt had to help my grandfather recover from a stint in the hospital a few months before this, and some of the duties she had to help him with . . . I pictured myself doing that for my mom, but I felt a giant terror inside of me. My grandfather's lucky in one sense, since he has three children. I'm the only one from my mother.

My usual focus on the NBA waned over these last 10 days, due to the circumstances. In this time, the Pistons lost their aura of invincibility. As it stands, there will be three series that go to the 7th game. Detroit won their 7th game, but I wasn't entirely sure of this outcome. The other two series finish Monday evening. San Antonio hosts Dallas, and the Suns host the Clippers. If the Spurs and Suns win, then it will be a repeat of the conference finals from last year. I am pretty comfortable with that scenario. For anyone who's following the NBA, three series to a 7th game is pure gravy at this stage. It would suggest that the Finals champion could be any one of the four. Of the six possible teams to win it, at this point, the advantage remains Detroit, San Antonio, and Dallas, in that order. However, the Heat, Suns, and Clippers aren't too far behind as everyone expected.

I remain a touch disappointed with the latest Detroit series. I'm happy for them, and I will enjoy the rest of their games this season, but I don't believe they are a strong lock to be the last team standing. Detroit, in reality, slipped to Cleveland's level. The starting five allowed injury, the pace of the Cavaliers, and their own post-season familiarity to lull their team into a dangerous slumber. Even in this last game, Detroit turned up their tempo in the first quarter, but that energy went on and off at times. For Detroit, however, and San Antonio, none of their starters forget that their success thrives from strong team defense.

Miami happened to use their internal frustration to fuel a fire hot enough to blow through the Nets. New Jersey wasn't as poor as the 4-1 series would suggest. The Heat, in this next series, should play a faster pace than the Cavaliers. Detroit clearly has a rough path. The Pistons can thank their efforts to gain home court advantage through the playoffs. Having this last game at home, plus hosting the Heat in the first two games of the next series, well, that is a large increase to their chance of resurgence.

Apparently, the Tigers are doing well. Somebody mentioned something about Barry Bonds. I don't know, since baseball still stinks. Ditto for hockey. It'll be a long summer for me, with regard to sports, but a vacation from that addiction won't be a bad thing. In addition, tomorrow is the finale for "24," and most of the other fall/winter shows also come to a close. Perhaps it's time to pick up that novel, or start that project for the garden.

I'm trying to get back into Sim City 4. Yesterday, one or more of the plugins I downloaded from Simtropolis caused my game to crash upon load of a city. Maybe I can use Norton GoBack to roll my system back to before this weekend, when the game still worked. Or, I can use this time to actually go through each plugin and test them, one by one. I downloaded about one gig of extras, so that's a lot of testing, if I choose that route.

If my life were a screenplay, then I believe the last 10 days may have been the beginning of a new act. I'm all for progress, but I'm not a fan of change. Since I've returned to Detroit, my life's been a lot of sideways movement and some downward slope. Life's showing me a number of cycles.

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[User Picture]From: kerrykate
2006-05-22 06:58 am (UTC)
Hugs!
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 07:04 am (UTC)
Thanks.

That's a nice secret garden you posted.

I noticed that a number of shows are being cancelled or are already cancelled. Of quality shows like "Carnivale," do you see the same trend I do? "Arrested Development," "Will and Grace," and all the other polished sitcoms and dramas are suffering an extinction of sorts. In replace is the standard one hit for numerous misses, but the rise of the 'reality' TV really bothers me.

There, to me, is nothing great about 'reality.' I need fiction, I guess.
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[User Picture]From: kerrykate
2006-05-22 07:12 am (UTC)
they canceled Deadwood!!.. this is the last season!
No more Reality shows ahhh! Netflix has been great for renting old tv shows even british shows.. Its been kindof cool to catch up.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 07:15 am (UTC)
Yeah, hooray for TV DVD!

If I had the money, I'd probably try to collect a few series box sets of various favorites.
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From: tfunkrvd316
2006-05-22 08:38 am (UTC)
sorry to hear about your mom. but i'm still not going to go easy in the nba community
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 04:12 pm (UTC)
I am not concerned.
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From: hulagalinthesky
2006-05-22 12:29 pm (UTC)
I hope your mom has a speedy recovery.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 04:13 pm (UTC)
Thanks.

Today, she fixed her own oatmeal. That was pretty cool.
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[User Picture]From: ellie
2006-05-22 12:47 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 04:14 pm (UTC)
Thanks.

The best part about helping . . . I can cook, and I can do it well. I'm also a genius with a microwave, for sake of time constraint and efficiency.

Problem is, I absolutely hate to cook.
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[User Picture]From: ellie
2006-05-22 05:19 pm (UTC)
I have no idea why you hate to cook. I love to cook; it's the cleaning up afterwards I hate.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 05:27 pm (UTC)
That's part of it, but I've always prefered to have someone cook for me.

I'm a prime candidate for mountains of money. I am a huge fan of eating out, and I have no money to do that other than very remotely. I miss that.
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[User Picture]From: ellie
2006-05-22 07:20 pm (UTC)
I like to eat out... mainly because they mix my martinis for me. I do have the money to do it, but I really should be saving that money. I have a wedding in a year to be ready for.

Which is sad, because I often crave hamburgers and margaritas.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 07:28 pm (UTC)
Mmmmm . . . HAMBURGER!
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 04:15 pm (UTC)
Thanks.

They caught this cyst in time. There wasn't anything close to full-blown cancer or terminal . . . if there had been, then I'd probably be a bit more thrown.
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From: steakumms
2006-05-22 04:02 pm (UTC)
Best wishes to your mom (and you as well, naturally).
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 04:15 pm (UTC)
Keep up the good work!

Never die, and never surrender!
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 04:51 pm (UTC)
Well, it was a discomfort to her, as she felt pressure down there most of the time, especially when she sat.

As for the bladder, she was retaining a bit too much . . . since the surgery, it's much much better . . . comfortable to sit, to get up, to go. Plus, that cysty ovary isn't there anymore, either, so there's nothing on the side to compound what ended up to be a bother for her for the last couple years.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 05:40 pm (UTC)
Surgery, my mother found out, was weird enough . . .

The general anesthesia they gave her knocked her out through the procedures. She remembered being wheeled over to surgery, and the next moment, she was lying in the hospital room, on a morphine drip, wondering if the surgery was over . . .

No dreams, whatsoever . . . not like sleeping, just nothingness, under that stuff, she said.
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[User Picture]From: gjenkins05
2006-05-22 08:10 pm (UTC)
It is good to see you post again, I hope everything turns out alright. :D
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-22 08:14 pm (UTC)
It will, that much I trust.
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From: all_gr0wed_up
2006-05-23 01:12 am (UTC)
I'm glad to hear your mom is doing better. Hang in there!

As for the Tigers, I'm still waiting for their mid-season slump. It's bound to happen.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-23 08:22 am (UTC)
I don't doubt it.

Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: smkndawonderful
2006-05-23 02:24 am (UTC)
There is something unnerving when one of our parents come to the point when they begin to need our help due to their health. I saw my mother down with a debillating virus last Fall and I have never seen this Matriarch felled.

It was an eye-opener, but I too stepped up to the plate. It's not necessarily something you take time to think about as to whether you're going to do it or not. You just do.

I cried myself to sleep at least once as the virus took her down. After a couple of very difficult moments where she cried from the pain, I went to the kitchen to get her some ice water and fell to the floor and cried myself.

I'm proud of you. Hang in there .... it's all part of our journey as children growing up and older.

Peace.

-T
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-23 08:22 am (UTC)
Thanks!
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From: (Anonymous)
2006-05-23 03:39 am (UTC)
Its good to hear good news bout your moms. As far as the NBA I admit I was rooting for LeBron, but honestly I dont care bout the NBA. To me the Pistons and the Spurs rematching would be cool I guess. I'm glad to hear about the next Act in your life, its always scary though when the page turns and its a new chapter. Things you once thought to be concrete can give way and change into something else. Just stick to your guns, and I'm sure you will make it through... and if you find yourself ont he Sauce too much... thats not a bad thing :-D Rock on Chris.
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[User Picture]From: allyaneedisrick
2006-05-23 03:39 am (UTC)
that was me.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-23 08:23 am (UTC)
Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: thedeadfisharmy
2006-05-23 04:22 am (UTC)
We passed through your fair city once again coming and going from our jolly jaunt to the midwest. If I had any illusions that TSA would have let you through to the concourse, I woulda given you a holler.

That being said, the tunnel to the A concourse is just about the trippiest fucking thing I have ever seen, in or outside an airport.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-23 07:40 am (UTC)
The best thing about this area is the upcoming electronic music festival.

Pistons are a suburbs thing.

Baseball . . . meh.
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From: xlindsayx
2006-05-23 03:58 pm (UTC)
i hope your mom gets better soon :)
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-23 07:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
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[User Picture]From: anima
2006-05-24 12:57 pm (UTC)
Best wishes for your mother's recovery. My thoughts are with you.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-24 01:24 pm (UTC)
Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: ryceratops
2006-05-24 07:48 pm (UTC)
really happy for your mom that it went okay!

forget sim city..get on WoW!
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-24 07:52 pm (UTC)
Dude, I hate RPGs. Hate them so much, I'd travel back in time and lay a mushroom cloud on the camp of caucasian primates, if only I had the tech.
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[User Picture]From: ryceratops
2006-05-24 07:56 pm (UTC)
But RPGs love you.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-24 07:59 pm (UTC)
It's a love unrequited.

I doth smote, verily.
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[User Picture]From: sauce1977
2006-05-24 08:04 pm (UTC)
ps

Thanks for the well wishes!

Our gaming differences aside. ;D
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[User Picture]From: ryceratops
2006-05-24 08:11 pm (UTC)
i still like you, just not as much. ;-)
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