|Spot the Fake Smile.
||[Aug. 22nd, 2005|01:15 am]
Society teaches people to not show true emotion.
From found_online, a link brought me to a BBC Science & Nature quiz to guage how well one spots a fake smile.
Find Out How Well You Spot Fake Smiles.
I scored 9 out of 20 correct.
2005-08-22 07:21 pm (UTC)
Matter of preference.
I don't like short smiles.
If someone smiles for a second upon a greet, it better be a huge freaking grin. I don't like short petite smiles, at all, ever. To me, that's an insult.
I can't figure out where I got that notion. As far as I can think about it, it seems to be an instinctual thing, possibly linked to something from childhood that I can't remember.
Though I don't really know, I would suspect your instincts to be correct. It seems to me that it would be easier to go full-on into a smile (in terms of using your facial muscles) than to only smile a little. It would (I suspect) take more muscles to refrain from smiling huge.
2005-08-22 07:50 pm (UTC)
I don't mind false displays, which is the other part.
It's like shaking hands.
A smile should be long enough for a person to notice, upon a greet. A handshake should be firm enough, but for women, handshakes are optional in grip, so they can be of any tension.
Long smiles and firm handshakes, to me, upon greet, are a sign of effort. If you can hold a smile for more than a second, and you can shake my hand with some sort of grip, then you probably are well-balanced and alert enough to be worthy of my time.
I don't really put any touching requirement, however, on people. I suspect that as society progresses, with the introduction of such diseases as HIV/AIDS in the 1980s, people will want to touch each other less and less.
But the smile, anyone without a stroke or severe quadraplegic limitation can do. If you can't smile for more than a second, then it's probably an indicator that the time to spend isn't going to amount to much.
So, I probably should expect any new people I meet that ever come across this post to probably make an exaggerated effort, like Nicholson's Joker from Batman. LOL.
Naw, just make that smile count.
This is all coming from a person who doesn't find it necessary to look at someone while in conversation, which is another quirk of mine.
I tend to think people with wishy-washy handshakes ARE wishy-washy, regardless of gender.
2005-08-22 08:00 pm (UTC)
Re: Total Subjectivity.
Well, they could have carpal-tunnel, or whatever that's called.
I noticed that if a handshake is weak, and the person is very weak in their conversation, then it's probably not a good idea to put them in customer service.
Hopefully, they have some other usefulness, like number-crunching or computers, because that weak shit will get them nowhere in sales or service.